ALL Alone For The Holidays?
What is it about holidays that make everyone want to go home to visit? Once there, we wonder what ever possessed us to spend all that money on airfare or gas to listen to our parents’ and siblings tell us all the things that we are doing wrong and how we need to live our lives differently. But that is family. They are the ones that know exactly how to push our buttons and get our goat.
Days Of Holidays Past
- Find a local church that is doing a community dinner and join them.
- Volunteer at a homeless shelter and bring a cooked turkey to add to the feast. This way, your home still smells like turkey and you will be contributing towards feeding the hungry. So it is a win-win for both sides.
- Ask around in advance where your assistance could be needed at a church shelter or senior center. Warm bodies are always appreciated to serve with a smile. Helping out serves two purposes, you recognize what you have and you appreciate your life so much more. Giving back always makes you feel good!
- Plan in advance so that you are not spending the whole day alone. Find a group to play games with or go for a walk with later in the day.
- Take a spa vacation for two days. Pamper yourself by staying at a Hyatt or other plush hotel and treat yourself royally.
- Play Christmas music that makes you feel good.
- Write Christmas cards and Thanksgiving cards and send them early to the ones you love. This old fashioned tradition is a lost art and will make you think of each person you won’t see with a fondness. Put your heart into your message. Don’t just sign your name.
- Call those you miss and tell them you love them.
- Watch movies that make you feel good. The happier the better. Laughter is good for the soul. Which is why I always watch National Lampoon Christmas Vacation every year, more than once.
- Avoid drinking as it is a depressant.
- Buy some scented candles to make your home or apartment smell festive.
- Do things that you love and make you feel good. Treat yourself to special foods that you wouldn’t normally cook. Like roasting a duck, or brussel sprouts…. something you really like.
- National Lampoon Christmas Vacation – my family’s favorite stupid Christmas movie. We watch it every year. It is a classic. A lot of laughs and Chevy Chase at his creative best.
- Home For The Holidays. (1995) With Holly Hunter, Dylan McDermott, Anne Bancroft (full movie below)
- The Holiday. With Cameron Diaz, Jude Law, Kate Winslet, Jack Black. Even if you don’t like Jack Black, this movie has many redeeming qualities, like the fact that it is set in the most beautiful part of England and LA. Yes, it involves love. A chick flick, but funny and sweet at the same time.
- Planes, Trains and Automobiles. Steve Martin and Beloved Canadian actor, John Candy. This movie is hilarious and heart warming.
- Scrooge. Bill Murray.
- The Santa Clause. Tim Allen. Although this could be construed as a kids movie, it is a happy, feel good movie. The kind you want to watch when you are all alone.
- Dutch. Ed O’Neill. Thanksgiving movie. Ok. You might want to kill the kid at some point in the movie, but it gets better.
- The Family Man. Nicolas Cage, Tea Leoni. Wealthy Wall Street trader, living the high life. His life is changed totally over night when he wakes up in suburbia married to his old girlfriend – with children. Great lessons, love over money. Happiness over the material. Funny, heartwarming.
- Holiday Inn. Bing Crosby. Yes, it’s old, but it’s a feel good real Christmas movie.
- How The Grinch Stole Christmas. Jim Carrey.
- Elf. Yes, it stars Will Ferrell, but wonderful warm and heart opening ending. Ed Asner plays Santa – well.
- A Charlie Brown Christmas. Sweet and a tradition.
- Home Alone. I couldn’t leave this one off.
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