Not Having Sex?

Not Having Sex?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sex is Wonderful. It is a healthy part of our lives. The desire for sex is like thirst, a natural urge. There is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about. It is not bad or wrong. What if you are alone?

We are mind-body-spirit beings. Living a holistic life means that we are fully integrated, all parts working for the good of the whole. All chakras spinning and open. The colors of the chakras are clear and bright. Nothing is closed or shut down. In a perfect world, right?


What happens when we live alone, when we are between relationships? What happens to our second chakra that governs our sexuality? When we stop having sex our second chakra becomes muddy. It becomes weak. We begin to lack confidence, we can become numb and unable to feel our emotions and the feelings of others. I have heard many women say that they feel closer to God when they are not having sex. (Keep reading this could not be further from the truth.)


The 2nd Chakra

The second chakra is the Seat of our Desire. It is located approximately two inches above the pubic bone and below the navel. The color of this chakra is pure orange when healthy. The chakras give our body and abundance of energy. Like a bank gives an abundance of money.When the chakras are weak we have the opposite of a healthy chakra. We will have difficulty keeping money, trusting and getting our ideas out into the world.  The 2nd chakra governs the following:


  1. Integration
  2. Ability to feel our emotions and the feelings of others
  3. Desire
  4. Confidence
  5. Creativity
  6. Ability to get your ideas out into the world
  7. Trust
  8. Reproductive issues
  9. Sexuality – hormones


If you don’t use it, you lose it!


If you are having hormonal issues, the best way to regulate them is through sex. Yes, having more sex will raise your hormone levels. Extended sexual pleasure with non-ejaculatory sex (for men) will raise your hormone levels. Like anything else, you have to get revved up to begin. Getting the pendulum to swing when it is stopped takes some energy. Just because you are alone, does not mean you can’t experience sexual pleasure. Experiment with what feels good for you. Get to know your own body. Then you will be more able to tell your partner (when you have one) what feels good for you. Self pleasuring is beneficial for the same reasons having sex with a partner is. Here are some of the benefits of sex.

  1. Increases cardiovascular health
  2. Reduces pain
  3. Extends life span
  4. Hormones are released through sex: serotonin, oxytocin, phenylethylamine, endorphins and dopamine. 
  5. Anti-aging hormones are released through sex
  6. Cell renewal is encouraged
  7. You feel good (see feel good hormones above)
  8. Its is pleasurable
  9. It is the closest to God you can be at the moment of orgasm the  prana brushes the central channel giving you a glimpse of enlightenment.
  10. Sex reduces stress, helps you relax and sleep better.
What is not to like?
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Jennifer is a sex educator and life, love and relationship coach. To book a session with her click this link to e-mail her




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