Tests And More Tests in The Dating Pool
Have you ever felt that you were being tested? Maybe you made a commitment to yourself and The Universe, or God, that you will only date men who are ______ (angry, addicts, alcoholics, married fill in the blank). Or maybe, for the gentlemen out there, you made a commitment to yourself to only have protected sex, or to only date women that _________( who have been divorced for over two years, don’t smoke, want to have sex, fill in the blank). Whatever the commitment that you made, there will be opportunities to see if you really meant what you said.
this type of partner. Perhaps your father was an alcoholic and this pattern of partner keeps turning up for you. You have made a concerted effort to break through this pattern.
Sometimes We Give A Bad Risk Too Much Time
Most of us have a tendency to give people second, third and fourth chances, even after the red flags have been waving in our faces since we first met this person. We ignore the red flags. We often even ask questions about the issue and listen to the excuses or lies the other person gives us instead of listening to ourselves. If we
don’t trust ourselves, we tend not to listen to our gut instinct. This can be very dangerous. It is how many people end up repeating the same bad relationships over and over. To break the cycle, we have to change our response. We need to get faster at recognizing red flags and warning signs.
Your body never lies. There are several ways that your body talks to you. You may feel a stomach drop, a lump in your throat, or a gut instinct that something isn’t kosher. Listen to your gut. Trust your self.
When you walk away from a relationship because of a serious issue, you are standing up for yourself. You are telling The
Universe, I won’t do this again (hopefully… till the next time, I do it again). Some of us repeat the same thing quite a few times before we really get it. That’s okay. When you finally do learn the lesson, you will be so DONE that you will be sure it won’t happen again. You will begin to smell them coming! Using your discernment to recognize the people that aren’t good for you is a skill. It also takes some courage. After you have dated one bi-polar person or narcissist, you will be watchful of the signs and avoid a repeat.
The truth of the matter is that when you say, “NO!” you are closing a door. When you close one door another will open. It is better to leave a relationship with no one in the wings (closing the door). Once the door is closed, another person will present themselves. Don’t stay for fear that there won’t be another person that will date you. This is demonstrating lack consciousness. The Universe is abundant. There are lots more where this one came from! Remember! You are so much better than that. You deserve to be loved. You are worthy!
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters became enlightened and self actualized in 2012. She is able to assist you come to a loving acceptance of yourself. When you are committed to your self growth and self discovery, she helps you overcome the following:
- low self esteem
- suicidal tendencies
- lack of focus
- living in the past or future
- health issues
- Epstein Barr Syndrome
- sexual dysfunction