The Key To Lasting Happiness
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Interested in hearing who Jennifer is on the air? Join her this Friday at 1:00 PM EST and 10:00 AM PST as Hollis Chapman, author of the book Pursue Your Passion interviews Jennifer about her forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life.
This is Jennifer’s second time on Hollis’ show. Our last time was synergistic, laugh-filled and very entertaining. Find out what makes Jennifer tick, and more about her book.
Now more than any other period in history, people are struggling with their sense of identity. We think we are mothers, wives, husbands, and fathers. We believe we are lawyers, doctors, teachers, and farmers. Yet our role as a parent _fill in the blank is not who we are. Our profession whether it is a medical professional or a teacher is not who we are. We mistakenly identify with our profession. What happens when our professional role ends? What happens to us when this part of us dissolves, through layoffs, termination or retirement? What then?
When we are born we have no such identity. We come into the world as an infant with a fully formed soul intact. Our soul is not one of an infant – our soul does not see ourselves as a baby. Most people have not ever considered the fact that our souls live on after leaving our bodies. They have never considered what happens when we are reintroduced into a new body. The soul in your infant child was a fully formed being.
We all make mistakes. We can all be misguided. Our emotions, self-doubt, and fear get in the way of choosing the best direction for ourselves. We often choose partners that end up betraying us, hurting us or leaving. When we recognize that we are okay as we are, and begin to love ourselves unconditionally, our body relaxes, our fear falls away. We don’t have to change, only our perception of ourselves has to.
The greatest change anyone can make for themselves is to change their thoughts.
Self-deprecating comments have no place in your head. JEM (Yes that is my motto.)
I usually have great success when I tell my clients, “If God would not say these things to you, why do you?“ When you begin to discipline your mind to think only positive thoughts about yourself, you begin to feel more positive. You accept yourself even is you don’t choose wisely. You begin to use the events in your life as teachable moments. Learning from the events, rather than beating yourself up.
It took effort, but I began to stop those thoughts that didn’t support me. I had begun to believe all the negative voices in my head saying I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t smart enough and I wasn’t deserving. It took effort, but this was the start of something really wonderful.