We Have To Heal Our Relationship With Our Mothers To Have Love Now
Men are what their mothers made them. Ralph Waldo Emerson
asked her yesterday, “How did you get so wise?” She responded yesterday that she had learned so much through me and my experiences.
pain, suffering and eventually heal, grow, evolve and become
enlightened. It is what you are here for. It is what you have asked for.
My mother and I now have a loving close and connected relationship. She no longer triggers me to react. In fact, even when she tries, she can’t. I accept her the way she is. I can’t make her work on herself anymore than she can push me to do anything I don’t want to do.
It wasn’t easy to forgive. It wasn’t easy to let go of what happened in the past. I did it for me, not for her. However, she benefitted as well. I am her only daughter. I am the only one that has a close, loving relationship with her. I did it so that I could have what I have always wanted: an unconditional love that nurtures and supports me in a healthy balanced way.
Today, my relationship with my molesters and all perpetrators is one of complete forgiveness and neutrality/love. We need to be in an emotionally loving state with others, without triggers to have true love.
- Recognize that your mother had to contend with her issues of abandonment and pain.
- Put yourself in her shoes. Feel what it would feel like to be an orphan at five like my mother was, or to be beaten, unloved, uncared for or neglected.
- Do the Ho’oponopono Prayer of forgiveness for you for asking for this in your soul contract. Spend at least twenty minutes in prayer repeating the prayer below slowly. You may cry. Allow whatever needs to come up to surface. Don’t push emotions back down. Feel them fully.
- Repeat step three for your mother.
- Feel compassion for yourself.
- Feel compassion for your mother. This one may be difficult. Do it regardless. Anything worth having is worth doing the work it takes. Remember holding resentment causes cancer and other autoimmune diseases. (I healed both of mine through loving me and forgiveness.)
- Say a prayer of gratitude for your mother giving you life. You have no idea the sacrifices that she made for you.
- Begin a relationship with your mother in a new way. Send her a note. Call her. Tell her you are sorry for anything you did to cause her harm.
- If all of the above are too challenging for you just yet, envision a bowl of fluffy pink icing. In your mind spackle mom head to toe and front to back with this fluffy pink icing. (Yes, this is a way to send love to her when you feel anything but!) Do this every day until you can feel the love flowing between you and your mother. THIS WORKS! You don’t have to have a conversation with the person to heal the relationship. We are all energy. Energy flows wherever we send it – even to those who have left the physical plane.
This prayer is a Hawaiian Kahuna Healing Prayer. Powerful and profound. Repeat slowly for at least twenty minutes without distractions of phone, music or television. Allow your emotions to surface. Cry if you need to, allow yourself to FEEL FULLY. Doing less does not release the trapped emotions. Get an energy clearing to assist you.
I am sorry
Please Forgive me
I love you
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE.
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