Why New Mothers Avoid Sex After Childbirth
There are plenty of reasons women don’t want sex after they have had a baby. An Australian study surveyed more than 1,500 women after childbirth. 13% of women won’t have sex for six months after their first baby is born. The second child could take even longer to recover from.
Remember that everyone is different. I remember hearing about a cousin of mine having sex with her husband in the hospital yes, right after she delivered her first child. Some women have an incredible sex drive after having a baby, while others couldn’t even think about sex for months. I was one of the latter.
Even with breast feeding a new mother is highly fertile. She will not want to have sex for fear she could be pregnant before she has even re-gained her beautiful figure.
Losing baby weight takes
months – even years for some women. During this time, their breast begin to sag, their tummy is not as tight as it used to be. How could it be. They had a little human in there. I remember my husband looking at me and saying, “You know you can lose that, you know?” I wanted to kick him in the balls. He was not the one that carried three children for 9 months. Men who make comments like that need to be strung up and …… (something to do with 50 shades of gray) sorry, I got carried away.
Once things begin to settle down, doing kegels to get the vagina back into shape, as well as the pelvic floor strengthened can help tighten up the vagina. There are two distinct sets of muscles a woman can intermittently squeeze and release. The PC muscles are one set, that can be felt when you stop the flow of urine while peeing. Pulling up and sqeezing will tighten the PC muscles. Doing sets of 30 or 40 repetitions while sitting; squeezing, holding for 10 seconds. then releasing, several times a day while folding laundry or even nursing can help to restore your lovely female parts to their pre-pregnant state.
Kegels can strengthen orgasms as well as restore muscle tone.
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